It is very rare that I find a song that completely speaks to and from my heart. Lyrics of songs are incredibly important and for some reason only very few modern artist seem to be able to write quality lyrics. Don’t even get me started on modern German artists, they have a whole class of awful for themselves.
But now and then, you find those songs. Those songs where the music is great and the lyrics are not meaningless, where it mixes together to this wonderful creation.
The last time this happened to me with “Tiff song” by Noah Reid, but this song is such a different stage of fantastic that I have to talk about it in its own text. Some day. When I am able to fully grasp it.
Today, on my last early morning flight from Germany to London for this season, I by accident found Kacey Musgraves. Don’t worry if you have never heard of her, she is very popular in the modern country singer songwriter scene. I listen to a lot of modern singer songwriter artists with country influences like Robbie Cavanagh, Lori Mckenna or Alx Green. They somehow manage the best symbiosis of this lyrics music thingy.
But I want to talk about a special song, maybe two my Kacey Musgraves.
When I listened to her song “Space Cowboy” I had this fantastic feeling of wow, someone writes what I think and feel and am maybe to scared to speak out.
The song title suggest some strange Star Wars thing, but sorry to dissapoint, it’s no space opera, or is it ? Well, it is about space, but not THE space, it’s about personal space. It’s about letting people have their space, resepct their decisions and maybe even help them when you feel like they can’t tell you for some reason. It’s about reading the situation, the relationship, the feeling in the room.
Musgraves addresses a thing I am very dear about in this song, the fact that love can fade. Just like that, no further reasons needed.
You see where the “space, cowboy” comes from now ?
“You can have your space, cowboy”.
Why is it, that we as humans, cling on to unhealthy realtionships ? Are we really so afraid of being alone ? Why ? Is being alone such a bad thing ?
I myself don’t like to be alone. So I never really am. I have friends who are there for me. Not many, but enough. Oh, and I had relationships. A lot of them. Short ones, long ones, good ones…you get me.
The thing is, to use Musgraves words, “it’s not my place, it ain’t with you”. If a relationship is not mutual on both sides anymore, it can not possibly be the right one for you anymore. Never. How could it ?
Wouldn’t a good and equal relationship make you more happy ? Wouldn’t you like that feeling of butterflies back ? That feeling of appreciation ? Well, why don’t you ? What keeps you tied to this person that doesn’t share your feelings anymore ? Just the past, the memories the felling of what if ? Well then, let it go. Give that cowgirl or cowboy some space, give yourself the space.
I firmly believe that society fucked up our relationship with relationships. I think we are so rigid in our ideas of how relationships should look, we don’t follow love, we follow pre cut and chewed ideas of how to press love into the right shapes to fit into…yeah I don’t know what to fit into.
I think that letting someone go because they just don’t want to be in a place or relationship is incredibly brave and always the right thing. It is also propably one of the hardest things. By doing this, you show respect for the other person and for yourself.
Now, Musgraves manages to fit all of this into a little song Called “Space Cowboy”. It’s sad and happy and makes me think and re-evaluate and it’s exactly how it should be. There even is this small word play and I am always game for those, so well played Musgraves (See what I did there !?).
Okay I think I have to also say that I think that relationships are work and that you need to work on them and should try to make them work. I absolutely believe that. I am in a wonderful relationship and it works, because we work on it. And because my girlfriend is awesome.
No, what I am saying is that if someone wants to leave, holding them back is really the worst thing you can do.
So please don’t.
This one was not the one.
If he or she was, they will come back.
If they don’t come back, they can not be the one.
But they surely gave you a wonderful time and you should cherish that, dwell a bit in sadness because that is healthy as well, we need to be sad sometimes.
But next spring, get back out there and find someone to get those butterflies back. They feel great. And you should feel great as much as possible.
Now they will propably fade, and I know that happens, and that’s cool and does not mean that it’s over now. But when you don’t feel good anymore or when you feel like the other person does not feel good and happy anymore…well then it’s maybe time to give that cowboy some space.